The grass deserves to be greener?

   I was talking with a coworker recently about relationships. He was saying how sad it was that the divorce rate is so high in this country. According to statistics at http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_div_rat-people-divorce-rate, almost five out of every one thousand people in the US are divorced.
   This conversation got me thinking. We talk about this generation not having the commitment levels of generations past. I propose that we have a higher commitment to ourselves. Stay with me here. I know this sounds selfish, but think about it. This is a completely different culture.
   Men used to be men. The man was expected to open doors, make the first move and bring home the bacon. They were intelligent, strong and capable of making the big decisions. If yesterdays man had an affair, was an alcoholic or roughed his family up, no one spared him a second glance as long as he was providing a good life for his family. Times change, some things have gotten better, but on the whole, I feel as though we have emasculated our men. Look at the movies. We have brooding, weak willed, follow us around like glittering little puppies as an example of "what women want". We've got guys telling their friends that if they have a girl that's willing to have no strings sex and the guy wants more then he must be crazy. We expect our men to watch chick flicks, talk about their feelings and go shopping with us like some damn trained dog. Is this really what women want??? We are sending our men mixed messages and then wonder why they aren't able to decode them.
   Women used to be women. The woman was graceful, supportive and quietly intelligent. They were expected to be good mothers, wives and managers of their homes. If they bucked the system and worked outside of the home, they could have a very fulfilling career as a secretary. It was absolutely absurd to hear of a woman leaving her husband. How would she survive? Today's woman is a bit different. Let's take a look at mainstream media again. We have women that only want a man that "makes bank". We've got women telling their friends that they should be promiscuous like the guys and not worry about it. Men want a woman that they can take home to momma, but what they find instead are a bunch of loud, obnoxious, uninhibited, disrespectful bimbos.
   We need a balance. It may be impossible, but this is what I would like personally. A man that is independent, intelligent, faithful to God and his partner and respects me for being an individual. I want to be a woman that is independent, intelligent, faithful to God and my partner and can respect my man for being his own person. He is capable of making the big decisions, but still discusses them with me because he values my input. Mutual respect. We trust each other because that trust has not been broken. To call him my best friend because we want to share our greatest fears and highest hopes together. Is it wrong for me to expect these simple concepts?